Author of M/M romance published with Torquere Press. I write both BDSM and vanilla.
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It’s BDSMonday! (For real this week!)
Today’s topic is funishment vs punishment. What is funishment? In a BDSM context, funishment is giving the sub/slave/etc. a form of play they enjoy when they’re ‘naughty’ or break one of the relationship’s rules. It’s different than punishment, which is generally play the sub doesn’t enjoy as much, or withholding play.
It could be argued that funishment is rewarding bad behaviour…but there’s nothing wrong with that! It’s usually silly and good fun for everyone involved.
In your kinky relationships, do you use funishment, punishment, or both? What sets them apart for you?
For myself and my Sir, we usually lean more toward funishment when we’re playing as ourselves (as opposed to roleplaying). We’re more comfortable exploring actual punishment as different characters, but we find those scenes a lot more intense and we don’t do them very often.
Vanilla readers: do you prefer reading about punishment or funishment? (Or both!)
I think there’s a certain pleasure to be had in reading about punishment, knowing that it’s a fantasy and no one is actually being hurt.
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